Balkans Bound, Part One: Planning, Arrival, and Prizren

The newest additions to my magnet collection

In August 2025, my 13-year-old daughter C and I embarked on an amazing two-week road trip through Kosovo, Albania, and Montenegro. Last fall, after our incredible trip to Japan, I began thinking about the next big summer trip. C asked if I would consider somewhere in the Balkans. With more than 40 countries under her belt and a love of geography, C wanted to both head back to Europe and also somewhere more off the beaten track. I had had several countries in the Balkans on my bucket list for a while, so it seemed perfect. I started to plan, and by early 2025, I had our flights, hotels, and itinerary all set.

Then the year started to go sideways. With everything going on in and around my life, I began to debate with myself whether a big summer vacation was still a good idea. I am incredibly grateful to my friends who talked me out of cancelling.

C at the airport before we started walking to our hotel

We flew into Pristina via Istanbul on an overnight flight. I again employed my long overnight flight strategy: go to bed early the night before so we’d start the trip rested, stay awake through the journey, and crash only after we arrived. It had worked surprisingly well for Tokyo — and, as luck would have it, it worked for this trip too. I slept for about an hour and C for two, and we touched down in Pristina wide awake and excited — 7 PM local time, 1 PM Washington, DC time.

I had reserved a hotel close to the airport. My brilliant plan was to stay at the hotel that evening, then return to the airport the next morning to pick up our rental car. On the map, the hotel looked close, only a 17-minute walk. We had walked from the airport to a hotel a few years before when we visited Lisbon, and I had walked from hotel to airport or vice versa in other places (I remember particularly in Bonaire and St. Kitts), so this seemed like a piece of cake. Unfortunately, the sidewalk stopped about 5 minutes out from the hotel, and we had roller bags that we then had to drag through a narrow strip of untended grass and weeds. While 10-year-old C had been game for the walk a few years ago, 13-year-old C was less than thrilled. But we both survived the ordeal, arriving at our hotel safe and sound and ready to finally get a good night’s sleep.

The 16th-century Old Stone Bridge in Prizren

The next morning, I walked back to the airport to collect our rental car only to discover that Budget does not have an office there — the Budget rental car office was right across the street from our hotel. Sigh. Just a lovely early morning stroll for me to and from the airport on a busy road. It seemed the guy sitting in the Budget office had been there for at least an hour just waiting for me, because as soon as I walked in, he spoke my name. Like something right out of a movie. He brought a little white Yaris around, showed me it had a few scratches and a long crack across the windshield, which he assured me was no problem. I signed the paperwork, and that was it. I hoped in, drove across the street to the hotel, where C and I checked out and loaded up the car. We were off. Our road trip had begun!

Beautiful wall mural in Prizren

We had only an hour drive to get to our first stop, Prizren. Kosovo’s second-largest city and its constitutionally mandated cultural capital, the area of modern-day Prizren has been inhabited since 2000 B.C. and has been a key city for the Dardanians, Romans, Serbians, and the Ottomans. As such, the small city is brimming in history.

After some trouble dealing with the difficult parking situation at our hotel located in the heart of the old city, a stone’s throw away from the Ottoman-era Old Stone Bridge that spans the Prizren river, we headed across the bridge for some sightseeing and lunch.

Following a lunch in Shadervan Square, we headed back across the river to the Archaeological Museum. The small museum is housed in a former 14th-century Turkish hammam. The museum was okay, but we were really there to climb up its watchtower so we could peek over into the neighboring plot at the church of Our Lady of Ljevis, one of the four Byzantine-Romanesque buildings that make up Kosovo’s UNESCO World Heritage-designated “Medieval Monuments in Kosovo.” I had read online that the Ljevis church was closed to the public for renovations and therefore the best way to see it was from the museum’s tower. Unfortunately, when I asked how to access the tower, the museum guide informed us it was closed for a special exhibit. So special, it seems, that guests to the museum could not access it, but only see the odd red light flashing from the top windows.

Our Lady of Ljevis

Once we exited the museum, I thought we would pop around the corner and look at the church from the gates. I managed a decent photo through the bars of the encircling fence. Then we walked around to the front to discover it was open to visitors, with a very knowledgeable guide on site. How lucky! Though the majority of the 14th-century frescos in the church, which were plastered over during the Ottoman period, have either yet to be uncovered or are perhaps too damaged to be so, restoration workers have been able to bring enough of them to light to demonstrate their significant artistic and cultural importance.

We headed back to Shadervan Square for ice cream, then, once fortified, we headed to Privren Fortress. Situated on a hill overlooking the city, the current fortress ruins date from the late Ottoman period. However, fortifications of some kind have sat in that location since the Roman era. There is no cable car or modern conveyance to get one up to the fortress, just a hard slog up the steep, uneven, paved pathway. Thankfully, it takes just 15 or 20 minutes to walk up from the Old Stone Bridge.

C at an entrance to Prizren Fortress overlooking the town

There is no entrance fee, no informational plaques, no guides. The location is amazing; from atop the walls, one has a commanding view of the town, river, and surrounding mountains. The fortress is a popular sunset spot for locals; however, we did not want to stay too long, and especially did not want to manage our way down the slippery stones in the waning light. Still, we enjoyed a good hour of the late afternoon light. We also did not know how much longer we might hold out against the likely jet lag.

My exquisite salad at the Sarajeva Steakhouse

We ended the day with an unforgettable dinner at a riverside restaurant, tucked beneath the 15th-century Sinan Pasha Mosque and looking out toward the graceful Old Stone Bridge. The evening was warm, touched by a gentle summer breeze, and we lingered over our meal as families and couples strolled across the bridge or paused in front of the mosque, bathed in golden-hour light. When the last rays of sun finally slipped away, we took one more slow walk along the river on the far side of the bridge. It was the perfect finish to our first day — so full and joyful that it already felt as though we’d been on holiday for days. We easily fell asleep so we would be well-rested for the next part of our adventure.

In and Around DC: Activities Summer 2025

Double rainbow over Nationals Stadium in June

I’ve always loved summer — the warm weather, the long days, the feeling of freedom. While my own long breaks are behind me, having a daughter in secondary school still brings a welcome shift in pace each year. This summer feels especially meaningful, as I’ll be bidding for my next assignment soon, and it could be our last full one in the U.S. for some time, so I was determined to make the most of it.

C sparkles on the ice during her June Ice Show performance

We kicked off the summer with an unexpected event: an ice show. Last year, my daughter began figure skating lessons and quickly advanced through the Learn to Skate levels. By spring, she had progressed enough to participate in the seasonal performance — a proud milestone for both of us.

Much of her early childhood was spent overseas, in places where extracurricular opportunities were limited. Even during our year back in the U.S. for my French training, pandemic-related restrictions curtailed many activities. So, this felt like the first time she could truly take advantage of the wealth of options available in Northern Virginia — a region teeming with opportunities beyond the usual suspects like soccer, ballet, and Scouts. Here, she could explore Irish dancing, field hockey, archery, fencing, or, of course, ice skating.

Though I grew up in this area, I never knew anyone who skated. So when C chose an ice skating party for her birthday in January 2024, I was stunned to learn that eight of the twelve kids she invited had at least a year of skating experience. It struck me how much had changed — and how fortunate she was to grow up in a place where these experiences were within reach.

Watching her glide across the ice during the two-day show, I couldn’t help but feel overwhelmed with pride.

My sister greets guests to the Great Gatsby’s big party at Dodona Manor

We followed up my daughter’s performance by attending another of my sister’s. Over the past two and a half years, we have had the opportunity to see her in several stage productions. Last fall, she participated in an interactive performative experience of Dracula at the historic Dodona Manor in Leesburg. This year, she played Catherine in a Great Gatsby experience, also at the manor. It was fun to wander the grounds, watching short scenes and interacting with the characters.

To satisfy our sports-watching appetites, we were invited to a Washington Spirit game by my daughter’s friend and family. Although the Spirit lost, it was an exciting match that kept us on our toes. Then we caught not one, not two, but three Washington Nationals games through the summer – one each in June, July, and August. We had our first-ever rain-postponed game in June, which delivered an amazing double rainbow over the stadium. We brought friends to the July game that ended in a spectacular win for the Nationals and evening fireworks. The Grateful Dead-themed August game ended in another loss, but we left with fun souvenir shirts. Win or lose, my daughter and I enjoy an evening at Nationals Park.

C readies for her first 5K

In mid-June, I invited my friend JK1 (who I served with in Ciudad Juarez and visited in Thailand and Zimbabwe) to see British comedian Sarah Millican at DAR Constitution Hall. We had enjoyed a holiday lights display with JK1 and her family the previous fall at Meadowlark Botanical Gardens, but their time in DC had grown short as JK1 wrapped up her language training and they moved to Laos. I had discovered the award-winning raunchy and hilariously funny Millican about two years before; as soon as I learned she would be touring in the U.S., I bought two tickets. A great deal had happened between my purchase of the tickets in early fall 2024 and the show in June 2025; with the administration’s military parade in the capital the day after, concerns arose that the show could not go on as planned. Thankfully, Millican’s team was in touch with the powers that be and her performance was given the go ahead. JK1 and I had dinner downtown beforehand, and then laughed and laughed through the show. How I had needed that!

On July 4th, C and I ran together in a local 5K. It was C’s first and my first in a long, long time. Back when I started this blog (11 years ago now!), I used to run regularly, but I had stopped when we moved to Malawi in 2017. C had asked me recently to show her my race tees and medals and asked that we run a race together. I suggested a fall run, but she wanted something much sooner. Against my better judgment, I signed us up for one only a few weeks ago. Unsurprisingly, we were slow. But we did far better than expected, and we had a good time.

C then headed off for two weeks of camp in Pennsylvania while I held down the fort with Ramen the Cat. The day after C returned, we headed to the Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens to attend the annual Lotus and Water Lily Festival. The park, located in the northeastern corner of Washington, D.C., was originally planted with water lilies from Maine by a Civil War veteran in the 1880s. He and then his daughter commercialized the venture when the lilies thrived in the marshy environment. In 1938, the government of Washington, D.C. bought the land to establish a park, and in 1976, the National Park Service took over its administration and started the yearly festival.

A snapshot of the beauty of the lilies and water lotus at Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens

The festival takes place each July during peak bloom. The weather was hot and humid, and the park crowded with flower enthusiasts. There are many activities available over the course of the three days from painting classes and yoga, but C and I stuck to what the majority of visitors appeared to be doing: soaking in the atmosphere and taking photographs. We spent nearly two hours there.

At the end of July, C and I made our way to the National Theater to see the Broadway production of Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. I’ve been enchanted by the Harry Potter universe since 2000, when a fellow traveler at a youth hostel in Vienna, Austria, passed along her copy of the first book before she flew home.

When we arrived to take our seats in the balcony, we were surprised with an upgrade — something that had never happened to me before in any theater. Our new spots were in the left orchestra section, barely 30 feet from center stage. Part theatrical drama, part sleight-of-hand spectacle, the performance was nothing short of mesmerizing, leaving us and the entire audience spellbound.

Before heading out on our summer vacation, C and I got in a bit of volunteer work at a local farm. Nearly two years ago, my daughter joined an all-girls Scouting America (formerly the Boy Scouts) troop. This past summer she worked on the Eagle-required Citizenship in Community merit badge. As part of the badge, she needed to volunteer at least eight hours with a charitable organization that supports the community. C chose to volunteer with the Arlington Food Assistance Center. For six of her eight hours, we went to JK Community Farm in Purcellville, Virginia on two Saturdays to pick fresh vegetables. I figured if C were going to do it, I should too.

Just some of the bounty we picked at JK Community Farm

It was hard work! We pulled and cut weeds, and harvested eggplant, cucumbers, yellow melons, tomatoes, and a variety of peppers — including bell, banana, and jalapeño. On the first Saturday, the temperature soared into the upper 80s under a relentless, beating sun. I sweated profusely, and my back ached for most of the following week — to the point where I wasn’t sure I could make it through a second Saturday. Nevertheless, we were there, and my sister and her two kids joined us. However, it was a great experience for us all, to see the kind of work that goes into growing and harvesting our food, and the importance of generosity and assistance to those in one’s community who need a helping hand.

It was another magnificent summer in Northern Virginia. It was not quite over as we had two weeks holiday overseas yet to come, but I think we once again made the most of our time posted to Washington, D.C.

In and Around DC: Activities Spring 2025

Plentiful in a northern Virginia spring, the Dogwood is both the state tree and flower of Virginia. Once my favorite flower, until I traveled and discovered the frangipani.

Another Spring in Washington, D.C. It is now our third consecutive year, and thus the longest I have lived continuously in the U.S. since August 2003 to January 2007. Although during that time I lived in four separate locations around the country (California, Hawaii, Maryland, and Washington, D.C.). I am not accustomed to staying in one place. I will be honest, I am developing some rather itchy feet.

I have to keep reminding myself that any travel, even local, is travel, and my daughter C and I can have adventures anywhere. These past several months have been hard, both personally and professionally, but I have tried to keep in mind that such times make it all the more important to find joy wherever you can.

We kicked off Spring with an early-season game of the Washington Nationals. The longer we stay in Washington, the bigger the baseball fans we become, and the more we associate the arrival of warmer weather with an afternoon or evening at the ballpark.

Checking out a Washington Spirit game at Audi Field

Continuing our streak of attending professional sports events, we went to our first Washington Spirit match in May. The same college friend who took us to a Capitals game last fall is also a Spirit season ticket holder. He and his wife couldn’t make one of the matches and were kind enough to offer their tickets to C and me. We were able to enjoy premium seating with free food and drinks throughout the match and seats close to the goal line. It was an exciting game, though the Spirit lost. The whole atmosphere of a Spirit match is infectious; we will definitely make attending more Spirit games a priority!

Not only did my sister perform in the show—she also designed this advertisement.

Also in May, we drove out to Purcellville to watch my sister perform in another local theater production. Being back in the U.S. has had many benefits, and getting to see her pursue this new passion has been a true highlight. This time, she played Miss Scarlett in Clue—one of my all-time favorite movies and my daughter’s favorite board game. I have a fear of public speaking, and my single attempt to try out for an improv group in college was a resounding failure, so it never ceases to amaze me that my sister does this so well.

In May, we also visited the Washington Monument. I grew up just outside of Washington, D.C., and have lived in the area several times as an adult, but I had never been inside the iconic memorial in our nation’s capital. In my defense, it has been closed to the public several times: about six months after 9/11, for over two years after the July 2011 earthquake, about three years between 2016-2019 for security upgrades and repairs, and at least six months during the COVID pandemic. With it currently open, I was determined that C and I would see it while we are living here. However, ever time I tried to secure the free tickets, they were snapped up as soon as they were released online. Unwilling to wait any longer, I booked through Viator. $25 each seemed a small price to pay to finally check this off my list.

Left: Bronze plaque found in the Washington Monument vestibule featuring George Washington and freemasonry symbols; Right: A view of the Tidal Basin from the Monument’s observation deck

In 1833, a society began collecting funds to build a monument to the country’s first president, George Washington. This would be the nation’s second monument to President Washington; last year I visited the first monument in Boonsboro, Maryland, built in 1827. Construction on the Washington Monument began in 1848; when it was completed in 1884, it was the tallest building in the world at 555 feet, 5-1/8 inches.

We lucked out with the weather during our visit to the Washington Monument. May turned out to be a chilly and rainy month, leading me to dub it “Mayvember,” but we had warm and sunny weather, despite a strong wind. It was, frankly, perfect for the incredible views from the observation deck at 500 feet.

Left: The Military Women’s Memorial; Right: A sentinel marches in front of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

Later in May, C and I visited Arlington National Cemetery. Despite all my years living in and around Washington, D.C., I can only recall visiting once before—around 2006—and even then, I only toured Arlington House. I very much wanted my daughter to see this extraordinary place; I thought this was especially important before more information highlighting certain heroes might be removed. In March, during a process reportedly conducted to comply with a presidential executive order, some material about black, Hispanic, and female veterans was removed from the cemetery’s website. Given the incredible history of the cemetery–built on land seized from the family of Confederate General Robert E Lee and his wife, Mary Custis, the great-granddaughter of the nation’s revered first president, George Washington, and located in southern confederate territory but on the doorstep of the northern capital — it is the final resting place for some 430,000 American soldiers from all walks of life.

For a Scout merit badge requirement, C was in charge of our visit and she made sure that we saw the highlights: the Military Women’s Monument, the eternal flame, Arlington House, and the changing of the guard ceremony at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier.

The incredible expanse of Elizabeth Hartwell National Wildlife Refuge

C and I wrapped up our Spring 2025 activities with some short nature walks at the Elizabeth National Wildlife Refuge in Lorton, Virginia. The refuge, established in 1969, was the first federal reserve created expressly to protect the bald eagle. At the time of its establishment, bald eagles were on the national endangered list with only a few breeding pairs in the area. Today, in a large part due to the Refuge, the Chesapeake Bay area, particularly around Mason Neck, is the home of the densest breeding population of the majestic birds outside of Alaska.

We brought binoculars on our walk and were lucky to observe several bald eagles flying and fishing in the area over the Potomac River. I found it so extraordinary that just 40 minutes outside the urban environment of our nation’s capital is so much protected land.

Once again, my daughter C and I made the most of our time posted to visit and experience the wonderful places and activities on offer in the Washington, D.C. area. We are incredibly lucky to live here.

A Mini Spring Break in North Carolina

Sunset on Sand Dollar Island

Spring Break. I do love that term and the possible adventures it opens up. For the past two years, my daughter C and I have opted to spend her Spring Break in the Caribbean, first in Grand Cayman and then in Roatan. However, this year, we stayed closer to home.

From the beginning, this year has thrown me some personal and professional challenges, so I did not have either the time or the energy to plan a big getaway. In addition, I had already taken some time off work to manage those personal challenges and did not want to be away for long in case I was needed. Still, I very much wanted and needed a break.

I opted to take only two days off, during which C and I drove south to the beautiful town of New Bern, North Carolina, to visit our long-time friends and travel companions CZ and Little CZ. The aim was simply to spend time with people who mean a lot to us and to be away from home because the whole “change of scenery” idea really does work for me.

At Latham-Whitehurst Nature Park

Another perk of this trip was the drive. Like many Americans, I do love driving and the excitement of a road trip. In many of my overseas postings, road trips are often limited, so while posted in the U.S., I want to take advantage of this option. Also, to be honest, I am currently quite annoyed by plane travel. I do not yet know if this is only a temporary irritation or something more permanent.

On the Wednesday night of the Easter week, C and I packed up the car to join the rush hour commuters heading south on I-95. I do not even remember the traffic; we really did not care. We were in the car, on our way to see friends, and singing our favorite songs at the top of our lungs. We stayed in a hotel just outside Rocky Mount, NC, for the evening. I could have pushed on to New Bern that evening, but the stress of the first few months of 2025 had worn me out. The journey, even staying the night in a nondescript, but clean and comfortable, hotel off the highway, was a big part of the break. Well-rested the following morning (more rested than I had been in months), we made the last two hours to CZ’s house the following morning.

Our first day was low-key. We arrived a bit before lunch and settled in. CZ and I began to catch up. Then, we all headed out to Sara’s, a restaurant serving up hearty portions of Italian and American comfort foods. It was a lovely, warm day and we sat outside. CZ and I did some more catching up. Afterwards, we drove just a short way down the road to the Latham-Whitehurst Nature Park, where we strolled and talked along wooded paths and boardwalks. Then back to the house for more talking. I am sure C and Little CZ were catching up as well; we weren’t worried about them. They have spent so many trips together over the years, they are almost like siblings.

For our second day, we decided to spend the day visiting Edenton. CZ said it had long been on her list of places to visit, and I am a huge fan of historic towns.

Left: The Cupola House, a Georgian-style home built in 1758.
Right: A 1905 bronze teapot commemorating the 1774 political protest organized by Penelope Barker—one of the first organized acts of female political action in American history.

Just outside of town, we stopped at the Edenton National Fish Hatchery. This might seem like an odd stop, but when I visited South Dakota in 2014, I also visited a fish hatchery. That one was established by none other than the famous Seth Bullock of Deadwood fame. The fish hatchery in Edenton also has a rich history, having been established in 1898. There is a small aquarium on the premises, and one can take a self-guided walk among the hatchery ponds. Unfortunately, several of the ponds were drained and we couldn’t see the fish in those that were filled. Though CZ and I tried to make it fun, the kids were bored fairly quickly. I admit is was no where near as interesting as the one in North Dakota.

The 1898 Roanoke River Lighthouse on the Edenton waterfront

The town of Edenton, however, is a different story altogether. We visited the welcome center and then took an hour-long trolley tour to learn about Edenton. Our trolley guide was a chatty woman, retired from nursing, who had grown up in the town. Though new to guiding, she knew her stuff. She filled us in on both the town’s and her family’s history.

Founded on Albemarle Sound in 1712—making it the second-oldest town in the state—Edenton served as the second colonial capital of the Province of North Carolina from 1722 to 1743. Often hailed as the prettiest small town in North Carolina, Edenton may be small, but it is rich in history, with nearly every street featuring multiple sites listed on the National Register of Historic Places. The 1782 home of Penelope Barker, the organizer of the 1774 Edenton Tea party, serves as Edenton’s Welcome Center. The 1776 Chowan County Courthouse, a beautiful example of public Georgian architecture, is the oldest courthouse still in use in the state. Lane House, the oldest house in North Carolina, is found in Edenton.

At the Herringbone restaurant, which is located in a 19th century herring icehouse

After the tour, we took a stroll up the main street to do a bit of window shopping. Fronted with coffee and dessert shops, restaurants, cute boutiques, and Bryum’s Hardware Store (owned by the family of our trolley guide), which has been a town staple since 1912, the compact street offers more than most towns of comparable size. We all had a nice time on the walk; each one of us bought ourselves a little something. Afterwards, we ordered dinner from the Herringbone (our guide said it is the most popular dining establishment in Edenton), and ate outside with a view of the sun setting on the waterfront. We loved our visit to Edenton!

For our final day in North Carolina, we chose another waterfront destination—the historic town of Beaufort. Established in 1713, it is the fourth-oldest town in the state and is known for its rich maritime (and pirate) history. On our previous visit with our friends, we explored the North Carolina Maritime Museum, took a silly tour aboard a replica pirate ship, and spent time at Shackelford Banks enjoying the beach and spotting wild horses. This time, we came for a late lunch before catching a ferry out to Sand Dollar Island.

Sand Dollar Island is a barrier island in the Beaufort Channel. It not really an island, but instead a sandbar, which is only accessible at low tide. And it has the highest concentrations of sand dollars (flat burrowing sea urchins) in North Carolina.

Sand dollars at Sand Dollar Island

To get there, we took a 30-minute ferry ride. Along the way, a pod of curious dolphins treated us to a bit of excitement. I doubt I could ever tire of spotting dolphins. The ferry “docked,” or rather rolled up to the sandbar, and we disembarked for our two-hour visit. Already after 5 PM and the tide on the rise, we had maybe a soccer pitch’s length and a maximum of fifty feet in width of sand to explore. The water around Sand Dollar Island was only a few inches deep so one could “wade” out a few dozen feet and still have the water only up to one’s ankles, giving the impression that visitors were walking on water. Though nearly everyone was bent over double in search of sand dollars.

Being the last boat of the day, there were not many left to be found. Visitors are warned to leave the living sand dollars, though we could pick them up and hold them to feel their tiny velvety spines, like hair, tickling the palm of your hand. C and I had never before found or held a sand dollar, so this was a very special experience. Especially walking on a sandbar at sunset as warm waters lap over your feet.

Sand Dollar Island disappearing beneath high tide as we depart

I will admit feeling just a tinge of worry as the sun set, the wind kicked up, and the water rose, and the return ferry was not yet in sight. But soon enough, we could see the ferry puttering towards us on the horizon. As we pulled away, Sand Dollar Island was certainly thinner than when we had arrived, and would surely be completely engulfed by the sea at high tide.

We drove back to CZ’s house, giving my oldest friend and I another hour to while away in conversation. C and I started our drive back home that evening, stopping again to spend one more night away from home, extending that different scenery feeling just a little longer. Then we were back home on Easter morning.

In and Around DC: Activities Winter 2024-2025

The frozen Potomac River from Riverbend Park in Great Falls, VA in January

I am continuing to write of my daughter C’s and my activities and adventures while make the most of our domestic posting to Washington, D.C. Lately, I have found it a bit harder to write about what we have been up to here in the United States. While I rarely discuss politics in this blog, I feel I must acknowledge the impact recent political shifts have had on myself and how they color the way many of us experience places and travel. The activities in this post start at the end of December, before the change in the government, and end in March, a few months into the new administration. Through it all, I continue to place great importance on meaningful experiences—time for my daughter and I to be together: to be entertained, to witness great performances, to explore historical sites, and to simply have fun.

Winter is my least favorite season of the year. I often plan a getaway to a warm (or warmer) destination around the holidays, and otherwise just plan to get through the chilly days. This year, I wanted to be a bit more intentional with indoor or seasonally appropriate activities that would make it pass a bit more pleasantly.

We started our winter activity extravaganza just after our return from our winter cruise with tickets to see the award-winning Broadway production of the Life of Pi at the Kennedy Center. I read the book some 20 years before and it had such a strong effect on me I recall where I was when I read it: in Hanoi during a trip to attend a conference. I had the book with me when I went out for an evening dinner and happened to sit near a table of U.S. diplomats. As luck would have it, my daughter C had selected the book from a pile of freebies at the end of sixth grade. I knew we would both enjoy the Tony award winning play with it’s power story by actors interacting with amazing puppets. I managed to get us second-row seats and it truly was a great night out.

At the very end of December, I booked us a tour of the U.S. Capitol and the Library of Congress. C has joined an all-girls BSA Scout troop here in northern Virginia and one of the requirements for the Eagle-required Citizenship in the Nation merit badge is to visit one’s state capitol or the U.S. Capitol. I had not toured the Capitol for at least 20 years and loved the idea of visiting again with C.

No matter the weather, the U.S. Capitol building is historically and architecturally phenomenal

All visitors to the U.S. Capitol are whisked through the public areas of the building with quick precision. There is a 13-minute introductory film and then each group is taken to the crypt, the rotunda, and statuary hall. Sadly, the public tours do not visit either the Senate or House galleries or climb up into the dome. I was surprised by the crowds on the last Saturday of the year. The rooms are so visually rich, I wanted more time to drink it in, but we had only so much time in any given spot before we had to move along.

The extraordinary architectural beauty of the Library of Congress

After the Capitol tour, our guides led us along the underground passageway to the Library of Congress. I had only visited the building once before; while working at the Defense Department, I went to the reading room in search of one particular book or article. How I could possibly have forgotten the astonishing grandeur of the library, I shall never know. But, my goodness, the Library is a feast for the eyes and a bibliophile’s dream. Again, the tour just scratched the surface. Unlike the U.S. Capitol, a visit to the Library is self-guided. C and I enjoyed the information, delivered with a comedic touch, of our guide, but I surely could have spent at least another hour languidly exploring the rooms. C, perhaps not, but she did like the Library portion of the tour better.

For our January outing, we lucked out with an absolutely glorious winter’s day to head to the Building Museum in downtown Washington, D.C. Like so many other places on my list of places to drag my daughter to, I last visited the Building Museum some 20 years before. One of the best parts of the museum is its location, housed in the gorgeous former headquarters of the U.S. Pension Bureau. Its distinctive red brick exterior is very attractive, but it is really the interior, with its Great Hall complete with eight massive Corinthian columns, that sets the museum apart.

The stunning interior and exterior of the Building Museum

The museum educates the public on the impact of architecture, planning, and design on our everyday lives and how it can transform communities. When C asked me where we were headed, she expressed skepticism that the visit would be of any interest to her. However, she loved the Great Hall and the exhibits. The “Mini Memories” exhibit featuring souvenir buildings from around the world was right up her alley. She familiar with many of the knickknacks such as the Empire State Building in NY, the Oriental Pearl Tower in Shanghai, Big Ben in London, or the Burj Khalifa in Dubai, all of which she had visited. She really enjoyed the Brick City exhibit celebrating iconic architecture from around the world made with LEGO Bricks. And surprisingly, she also found the exhibit on Brutalism interesting, as one can find many buildings from that unfortunate period in architecture around D.C.

C made a Philadelphia Eagles player out of LEGOs and that evening we took part in one of the most Americana of winter activities: watching the Superbowl.

The performers allowed photos during their second encore

In February, C and I returned to the Kennedy Center to see an exquisite performance by the National Ballet of China. The company reimagined The Nutcracker, keeping the beloved original score but giving it a fresh twist for Chinese New Year. Every scene was infused with rich cultural elements—from dancers wearing zodiac animal masks to a graceful crane dance, and striking costumes inspired by blue-and-white porcelain and decorative fans. Once again, I managed to score seats close to the stage, which let us fully immerse ourselves in the performance. I was not quite sure how C felt about it all, until she leapt to her feet to applaud at curtain call. (Sadly, this will be our last visit to the Kennedy Center until it is less politicized).

Nosebleed seats still give one a great view of the action on the court!

To close out our winter season adventures, we went to our first professional basketball game, cheering on the Washington Wizards as they took on the Orlando Magic. While the Wizards did not appear interested in playing defense and only found their rhythm late in the final quarter, we had a really great time. The two and a half hours flew by as we were engaged and entertained from start to finish. I have a feeling this won’t be our last live basketball game!

Winter has never been my favorite season, and, between the shifting political climate and some personal challenges, this one was harder than most—between the shifting political climate and some personal challenges. But making sure C and I carved out space for fun and good memories made all the difference. From memorable performances to D.C. highlights, we found a great mix of things to keep us busy. And now, with spring (and warmer weather) finally settling in, I’m looking forward to lighter days—both in season and in spirit.

A Quick Getaway to Philly

Elfreth’s Alley in Philadelphia, PA

C and I continue to make the most of my assignment to Washington, D.C. And, well, things have been more than a little, um, odd in Washington lately, which makes it more important that we make time to enjoy the positive aspects of the area and America.

In mid-March, C’s school had a random Friday off, so I decided we would have a short getaway to Philadelphia. I had only been to the City of Brotherly Love once, at least 15 years ago. I thought it would also be fun to invite one of C’s best friends, TO, on the trip. When I was a little younger than C is now, my best friend was a girl named Jennifer who lived up the street from me. Jennifer’s mom, Debbie, was also a single mom, but she invited me on several trips with her and Jennifer. We went to Ocean City once and another time to Gettysburg, Pennsylvania. My parents, maybe exhausted with four children and without much disposable income, rarely took us on trips other than to see family (and half the time our car would break down before we got out of town). Therefore, my trips with Jennifer and Debbie were really special for me. I wanted to pay that forward.

We had TO stay over the night before so we could have an early start on the three-hour drive. Half an hour into our journey, I stopped at a 7-11 and the girls stocked up on just the kind of stuff you might expect teenage girls would like to munch on while on a road trip. And I had the last hour in quiet once they crashed. I wanted them well rested for the busy day we would have ahead.

Sunlight hits the Liberty Bell with Independence Hall outside

After checking in early at our Penn’s Landing hotel, we headed to our first stop: the Philadelphia Mint. C is a member of Scouting America. Since she was working on her coin collecting merit badge, the U.S. Mint in Philadelphia, established April 2, 1792, seemed the perfect place to visit. Photography is not allowed inside the Mint, so we had to make do without. We enjoyed reading about the history of the Mint and the production of coinage in America but our favorite part was watching the thousands of quarters, dimes, nickels, and pennies move through the assembly line on the massive production floor. Though for C and TO, the gift shop came a close second.

After the Mint, we tried to visit Independence Hall, but I found out it was sold out for the day. I had not expected this on a random Friday in March! A National Park ranger informed me that a limited number of next-day tickets would go on sale at 5 PM, so I set an alarm and we headed to the Liberty Bell across the street. The first time I visited Philadelphia, it was a warm September day. I remember shuffling past the Liberty Bell in a long, slow-moving queue. This time? No line at all. It took less than ten minutes from entry to standing before one of our country’s most recognizable symbols of freedom. I think C and TO appreciated seeing in person something they had studied at school. Only they appreciated it for a fraction of the time I did.

The extraordinary Philadelphia Town Hall (from the outside)

I got those hungry teens some lunch, then we walked downtown to the beautiful Philadelphia Town Hall. Construction started on the ornate French Second Empire-style building in 1871, and when completed in 1894, it was the tallest habitable building in the world. With nearly 700 rooms, the Philadelphia Town Hall is the largest municipal building in the United States and one of the largest in the world. Today, it is listed as a National Historic Landmark and a National Historic Civil Engineering Landmark. This is exactly the kind of cool building I enjoy touring! But wouldn’t you know it, all tours were sold out that day. Foiled again.

Inside the Reading Terminal Market

On the way to our final planned stop for the day, we passed through the Reading Terminal Market, the indoor public market built under the elevated train shed of the former Reading Railroad Company (yes, the one from the Monopoly game). Here, I finally got C and TO’s attention with the sweet shop featuring popular American and imported candies. With their sweet teeth satisfied, the teens were ready to continue on with my sightseeing plan.

Widowed Betsy Ross purportedly rented two small rooms and a storefront for her upholstery shop in a building near the center of Philadelphia. A flag maker for many years, the Ross family history credits her with sewing the second official flag of the U.S. While direct evidence is thin, the legend of Betsy Ross is firmly rooted in American history, and I, for one, am pretty happy with a woman having such a place in the pantheon of historical figures associated with our democratic beginnings. It isn’t a big museum and the tour guides throughout are great; they kept C and TO interested and engaged. That is no mean feat with two teenage girls, especially ones who have already been dragged around to several historic sites for most of the day. Afterwards, we headed back to the hotel via the quaint, historic, and very photogenic Elfreth’s Alley, the oldest continuously inhabited residential street in America.

Betsy Ross was here (probably)

We rested a bit at the hotel before I made the girls join me at the riverfront at Penn’s Landing for a walk as the sun was setting. Then we went to the largest Wawa I have ever seen, where we all stocked up on foodstuffs for dinner. Back at the hotel, we ate and I watched television while the girls hid in the bathroom, chatting and making TikTok videos. And at 5 PM sharp, I logged on to the website and secured us tickets for Independence Hall for Saturday.

The next morning, I took the girls to an early morning guided tour of Philadelphia’s Magic Gardens, an extraordinary indoor/outdoor art space of mosaics created over decades by Isaiah Zagary combining handmade tiles, pieces of donated / cast-off household items from bottles to bicycle tires, and commissioned folk art from local, national, and international artists.

Scenes from the Magic Gardens

Honestly, I didn’t know if the girls would like it, but I wanted to include something on our itinerary other than historic sites. But they loved the Magic Gardens! They grabbed the scavenger hunt sheets provided by the museum, ditched the tour, and explored on their own.

I really enjoyed the tour. It was about 30 minutes long, providing us with information on the artist, his inspiration, process, role in the community, and legacy, along with plenty of time to meander where we liked, though in my opinion one needs at least twice the amount of time to really take in the details (well, if you are not visiting with teens). Unfortunately, the upper floors were closed to the public. I very much wanted to get up to the rooftop.

We then walked from the Magic Gardens to the old city for our Independence Hall tour. Luckily, we arrived early (as recommended online), and when other ticketed visitors did not arrive, we were able to join the tour scheduled 30 minutes before ours.

Scenes of Independence Hall

The tour is only 20 minutes long. The building is not large, and the tour visits just the two rooms on the ground floor. Though these are, perhaps, two of the most famous rooms in U.S. colonial history. C and TO were engaged in listening to and responding to questions from the guide; they are in civics this year. For me, the space, saturated as it is in our history to create a democratic nation, felt all the more weighty in the context of current political happenings. The words of our National Park Service guide, a bilingual, mixed heritage American from Puerto Rico, to our group, made up of visitors from around the country and the world, resonated with deeper meaning. I thanked each of the NPS guides for their service.

That was our quick trip to Philadelphia. Nowhere near enough time, but a fun and important trip that I hope will be something my daughter and her friend remember.

Lancaster County, PA Getaway – Again!

C on the historic Chiques River Covered Bridge

Last fall, I bought tickets for an event in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. My daughter C and I had really enjoyed our previous visit to the town, and we looked forward to another trip there. Washington, D.C. has also recently been saturated in tension and uncertainty, so I needed to get out of town for a weekend.

We headed out of town on a Friday afternoon just after C came home from school. Friday afternoon driving out of D.C. can be a struggle, and so soon after the Return-to-Office order for federal employees meant the 2 1/2 hour drive took about an hour longer. But no worries, our first destination in town was Sushi Heaven, an all-you-can-eat Japanese restaurant we fell in love with during our last visit. After stuffing ourselves, we headed to our hotel.

The Cartoon Network Hotel in Lancaster

On our last visit we stayed at the super cute Red Caboose Motel in Ronks, PA. Looking for something else unique, I reserved a room at the world’s only Cartoon Network Hotel. While I am a bit too old for Cartoon Network, and C is largely over it, we are familiar with it, and we love a unique place! Also, the hotel is well-located on one of the main drags in Lancaster, with easy access to everything we wanted to see and do. I wanted a Powerpuff Girls room, but they had all been reserved, so we had to make do with Jake the Dog from Adventure Time. No problem. The room was cute, the beds comfortable, and we had a good night.

On Saturday morning, after a much-needed lie-in, we headed to the town of Lititz for a 10:30 AM tour at the Julius Sturgis Pretzel Bakery. On our tour, C and I had the opportunity to roll out some dough, twist our own pretzels, and learn about the history of Sturgis Pretzels. Founded in 1861, the bakery is the site of the oldest commercial pretzel factory housed in one of Lititz’s original buildings, which was built in 1784. Now, pretzels have been around a really long time. Reportedly, an Italian monk invented them in 610 AD, but those were the soft pretzels now generally associated with Germany. But the hard pretzel popular in the U.S. was invented by Julius Sturgis in 1860. The baker he worked for thought they wouldn’t sell, so Julius bought his own place, and, as they say, the rest is history.

Following the Sturgis bakery, we took a brief walk around the lovely historic town of Lititz. Members of the Moravian church from Bohemia founded Lititz in 1756, and for much of the first 100 years of its history, only congregation members could own homes in the town. Over the years, buildings of many architectural styles (48!), from colonial and federal to Victorian and Beaux Arts and everything in between. I would have liked more time to explore but C is a bit less enthralled with historic buildings and architecture than I am, it was chilly with a bitter wind that made walking unpleasant, and we we were getting hungry and had lunch plans.

Lititz Architecture ranges from the Linden Hall School for Girls (left), the oldest girls’ boarding school in the U.S. and the Beaux Arts-style Lititz Springs National Bank (right)

C and I made a beeline back to Lancaster and its Central Market (the continuously operated public market in America) for lunch. C may not care that much about the historic importance of the market, but she enjoyed the food there enough to personally request we return for some more goodies. We wandered past the stalls doing some “window” shopping before getting sandwiches and a whoopie pie, then nabbed a few seats at one of the few tables on the ground floor. Here we could munch on our food and people watch – where cheerleaders just out of a local competition mingled amongst locals and visitors buying from stalls with fresh fruits, vegetables, cheeses, and meat from Mennonite and Amish farms or grabbing Thai, West African, Spanish, Caribbean, Scandinavian, or Middle Eastern bites. Then, it was back to the hotel for a little rest before the evening’s event.

I built our Lancaster return trip entirely around seeing Riverdance, the Irish dance phenomenon, at the American Musical Theater (AMT). I do not remember when I first saw Riverdance, but it was in the Washington, D.C. area some 20 years ago, and I absolutely loved it. When C and I visited Busch Gardens in Williamsburg, I took her to see the Irish dancing show, and she insisted we see it again on our next visit. I knew she would love Riverdance, so I had to get tickets when I heard they were touring again. Lancaster and its unique AMT seemed the perfect place to see it. The performance was everything I remembered and more; C loved it! I’ll certainly keep the AMT in mind for future shows.

On the last day of our Lancaster County getaway, we drove first to one of the county’s many famous covered bridges so I could do a photoshoot of C. It was chilly and C was grouchy (she is nearly every time I pull out the fancy camera) so we spent only 20 minutes. Our next and final stop was the Turkey Hill Experience in Columbia, PA. I opted for both the interactive experience and the taste lab. For the former, we laughed our way through creating and naming our own ice cream flavor, designing its box, and making a commercial. We also locked ourselves into a mock (but still cold) ice cream freezer and taste-tested several of Turkey Hills’ beverages (for free!). In the taste lab, we were able to create our own ice cream using a very delicious vanilla base and choosing between some 18 flavorings, maybe 20 dry toppings, and some 10 liquid mixes. I went with a birthday cake flavor, topped with peanut butter cups and cookie morsels. I stopped there. With the flavoring, that is! I wish I could have used more self-control when it came to eating!

We packed a whole lot into our second visit to Lancaster County! It really was just what we needed for a mother-daughter getaway.

A Weekend Getaway to Melaka, February 2003

Lunar New Year’s decorations in the Chinese areas of Melaka

With current events being what they are, I thought this would be a good time to get into my way back machine and revisit a trip I took a long time ago. To go back to before I worked for the federal government, back before I was a mom, and before I grew old and my parents older. From July 2002 to July 2003, I lived in Singapore while pursuing a Master’s in Southeast Asian Studies. As Kismet would have it, a few months into my degree I discovered my high school friend CC was also in the country working at an advertising agency. CC and I decided to take a weekend and head up the Malaysian peninsula to Melaka together.

Melaka is but a quick, comfortable four-hour bus ride from central Singapore. I met CC early on a Saturday for the journey. All I remember is the bus was nice and CC and I talked the whole time. I know it must have been an easy trip as I do not recall anything special about it. I have been on very many types of transport around the world, and though it’s nice to have a straightforward trip, it’s the uncomfortable and weird journeys that make the best stories.

A traditional Straits Chinese shophouse building in Melaka

Melaka (spelled “Malacca” by the British) is quite possibly Malaysia’s most famous city outside of the capital. Owing to its strategic location halfway along the Strait of Malacca, a long-vital maritime route, and at the mouth of the Melaka River, Melaka has served as a crossroads, port, and home for many cultures over the centuries. In the 1400s it was the seat of a sultanate, from 1511-1641 a possession of the Portuguese, from 1641 to 1824 a Dutch holding, then ceded to the British until Malaysia’s independence in 1957. Chinese envoys and tradespeople made Melaka a key commercial stop and immigration destination. As I wrote in 2003: It is a fascinating little city with architectural representations of each of its colonial rulers and the Malay, Chinese, and Muslim influences of its past and present.  It seems like a place out of time, an almost European city plunked down in tropical Southeast Asia, with a Muslim Malay population with a heavily Chinese influence.

We stayed at the Eastern Heritage Guesthouse, an inexpensive lodging house in a traditional southern Chinese shophouse on Jalan Bukit Cina (China Hill Street) near the city center. Percentage Boy was the front desk clerk and jack of all trades at the Eastern Heritage Guesthouse. When we stopped in to inquire about a vacancy, we asked to see the room first.  We thought it was nice, but CC wanted a room with an attached bath, and the Eastern Heritage Guesthouse didn’t have any. We asked Percentage Boy if he knew of other places with similar prices and attached baths nearby. He assured us there were some, but mentioned that approximately 75% of visitors to his guesthouse decided to stay. After some discussion, we, too, came around to Percentage Boy’s persuasive nature. It was after all only 22 ringgit a night, which came out to 11 ringgit each or six and a half Singapore dollars each or four U.S. dollars each.  We were sold. 

The Peranakan-style necklace I bought; it’s still one of my favorites

Downstairs, as we entered our details in the guesthouse registry, I asked Percentage Boy if he spoke Malay, hoping to practice mine. He mentioned that he knew about 80% of Malay. I then asked about his Chinese. He responded that he spoke approximately 10% Chinese, about 90% English, 5% German, and 5% Italian. I tried not to roll my eyes. As CC and I exited, he provided us with a map and suggested we might be interested in the Laser Light show, as nearly 95% of his guests had reported enjoying it. However, the lady at the tourist information center informed us that the show was not running at the moment, although we discovered the next day that it had been. I wondered what percentage of visitors received the wrong information from Tourist Info Lady.

The Eastern Heritage Guesthouse, now permanently closed, sat about midway down a street of faded Chinese shophouses built in a style typical of the Straits Chinese. Downstairs the front of the building facing the street housed the family’s shop, while in the back and upstairs the family home. While living in Singapore, I visited the National Museum of Singapore during an exhibition on the Straits Chinese and was keen to see more of the culture.

Also known as Peranakan or Baba Nonya culture, the early southern Chinese who arrived on the Malay peninsula between the 14th and 17th centuries developed a unique amalgamation of Malay, Dutch, and Chinese culture. Their beautiful shophouses line many of the streets in Melaka; several have been turned into graceful hotels, interesting boutiques, and atmospheric restaurants. 

The Standhuys, or city hall, built by the Dutch in 1650

CC and I walked towards the historic center of Melaka to take in what is known as Red Dutch Square, an area characterized by 17th- and 18th-century Dutch buildings, including the Stadthuys or “city hall” (considered the oldest Dutch building in Asia) and the Dutch Anglican Christ Church (the oldest Protestant Church in Malaysia), and supplemented later by the British, who built the free school and the Queen Victoria fountain, and the Chinese, who built the clocktower. We next visited the ruins of the Portuguese Church of St. Paul, built between 1566 and 1590.

Some of the hell money I bought in Melaka

We poked about in shops, had a fantastic foot reflexology session, and gobbled up delicious wood-fired pizza in a refurbished shophouse. We also strolled through the Jonker Street Night Market, which was certainly lively, but lacked the jostling crowds we had experienced in Singapore.

While window shopping, I found a large stock of “hell money,” incense paper resembling various currencies, used in Chinese ancestral worship. By burning the currencies, people transfer funds from the living world to their deceased family members in the spirit world to ensure they will have sufficient funds in the afterlife to buy necessities and luxuries, pay bribes, or atone for their sins. Most hell money notes are high denominations. As a long-time currency collector, I had to buy some to add some to my collection.

The evocative ruins of the Portuguese Church of St. Paul

On our second and last day, Percentage Boy had one more opportunity to impress us with his statistical knowledge: At breakfast the next morning, Percentage Boy asked if we wanted toast with jam or eggs. We both ordered the egg, which seemed to confuse the boy as he noted that 75% of female guests ordered the toast and 90% of male guests ordered the eggs. We explained that we were hungry women. He seemed dubious.

Before we left Melaka we took a riverboat tour and met the talkative tour guide, whom I dubbed Loquacious Captain. We should have guessed something was up when his disembodied yet friendly voice welcomed us on board through the intercom with “Welcome. Welkommen. Selamat Datang. Huanying.”  This guy was full of character. He gave tons of information about the town of Melaka, the sights along the river, and just about everything else. Every monitor lizard we saw along the river had a name: Antonio Banderas, Sean Connery, Michael Douglas, Catherine Zeta-Jones, and Charlie. He spent much of the return journey saying goodbye to us…in as many languages as possible: “I would like to thank you on behalf of the tourist office of Melaka, myself, the boat captain, the crew, the Ministry of Tourism of Malaysia, the Prime Minister, and all the people of Malaysia– Thank You, Terima Kasih, Xie Xie, Arigato, Gracias, Merci, Danke Shon, Selamat Po, and for my friends from Russia Spaciba, to the Koreans Kamsahamnida, Shukriya to our Hindi friends, we want to thank all of you and to say Goodbye, So long, Farewell, Adios, Arrivederci, Ciao, Zaijian, Selamat jalan, Salaam, Adieu, G’day mates to those from Australia, Cheerios to our friends from Britain, Au revoir, Auf Wiedersehen, Aloha to the Hawaiians, Namaste, Sayonara, Do Svidanja to our Russian friends, thank you and goodbye, and as they say in Texas, you all come back now ya hear.”

I wish I had written more about and taken more photos of our trip to Melaka. It was a long time ago and a quick trip. Someday, I would love to return with my daughter. Five years after my visit Melaka, along with the Malaysian city of George Town, was designated a UNESCO World Heritage Site for its extraordinary blend of cultures and architectural styles. I hope the designation has led to funding and visitor interest in protecting this beautiful town. Though the faded, peeling paint jobs, broken shutters, and crumbling facades provided a certain atmosphere, future generations deserve to enjoy them too.

Southern Caribbean Cruise, Part 4: Three Days in Puerto Rico

C on a street in Ponce’s historic district

After our Southern Caribbean cruise, we ended up back in San Juan, Puerto Rico. I planned for us to spend three days in Puerto Rico taking in some sights.

On the first morning, we took a taxi from the cruise terminal to our hotel in Condado Beach, left our luggage, and headed out for a walking tour of Santurce, the largest and most populous neighborhood in San Juan, and a place with a long history of diverse immigration and cultural expression. I had read an article online about the murals of Santurce and was determined to see them. (I have a bit of a thing for murals, graffiti, and painted signs such as those we saw in Brussels, Luxembourg, Lisbon, Kenya, Malawi, and even Guinea.)

Some of the dozens of wall murals we found in Santurce

From our hotel, we walked about 30 minutes to Calle Loiza, which the article indicated was the center of the street art renaissance in Santurce. We crossed up and down streets and tried asking some locals, but I could not find the ones I was specifically on the hunt for. We did see many fantastic examples of street art, but none of those I saw in the article. It was more than a little frustrating as there seemed to be no information I could find online that would map out where to find these beautiful murals, some of which were painted by well-known international artists. Even those who lived in San Juan or in Santurce could not tell me where certain artworks I found online could be located. One of our hotel clerks told me Santurce was too large a place and the murals spread out. In an area of Santurce, where I had read that not only was there a large concentration of murals, but also a burgeoning restaurant scene, C and I found instead an atmosphere of neglect. It was Saturday late morning, and I had expected to see many people out and about, lounging in outdoor seating at some of these cafes I had read about, where I thought we might have lunch. Instead, we ran into only a few other people. An old man seemed confused when we asked him about murals, as if he did not realize we were even in San Juan. A drunk, stumbling about, who yelled something at us. The cafes listed in the article were closed, at least one permanently. After an hour of walking through Santurce, hot and a little confused, we returned to the hotel.

Scenes along the Paseo del Morro

We grabbed another Uber and returned to Old San Juan for lunch in a popular location. The place was packed and it took nearly an hour to get our food; we did not finish until about 2 PM. I was trying hard not to be frustrated by the hiccups. I was determined to show C more of Old San Juan, so we headed to the Puerta de San Juan, the main gate to the walled city built around 1635, during the Spanish colonial period. We took a leisurely stroll along the Paseo del Morro, the pedestrian pathway wedged between the waters of the Bay of San Juan and beneath the walls of the Castillo San Felipe de Morro.

A canon looks out at the Bay of San Juan from the Castillo San Felipe del Morro

We meandered along. A large feral cat colony lived alongside the water, and dozens were asleep beneath the bushes, among the rocks, in the grass, and on the path, much to my daughter’s delight. Iguanas lay on ledges in the rocks beneath the higher Castillo walls; their location likely keeping them out of the way of the cats.

I looked at my watch and discovered it was after 4 PM and the Castillo would close at 5, so we needed to hurry up to see it. It took us another 15 minutes to climb up to a Castillo entrance, leaving us about 40 minutes to race through one of the most iconic fortifications in the Americas. It was not our first high-speed tour on the trip, so by this time, we were getting pretty good at it. We quickly explored all three levels right up until we were being ushered out by park rangers. We walked out the front of the Castillo, across the expanse of lawn where kids were flying kites, families, friends, and dogs were enjoying the last rays of sunlight. We passed the Santa Maria Magdalena de Pazzis Cemetery, where the dead have an amazing fabulous panoramic view of the ocean and the fort. I remembered I had wanted to walk through it, but now time would likely not permit.

On Sunday morning, on our second day in Puerto Rico, C and I picked up a rental car in Condado Beach and headed south into the interior. Our destination: the Toro Verde Adventure Park in Orocovis, about an hour southwest of San Juan. We were here to ride the Monster, the longest zipline in North America and among the top 10 longest ziplines in the world.

The view at Toro Verde Adventure Park in the rolling mountains of central Puerto Rico

C and I like to have a bit of adventure, not only in where we travel but also in what we do when traveling. For instance in London, we slid down the world’s longest tunnel slide, and in Amsterdam took a ride on Europe’s highest swing. We were supposed to take on the highest zipline in Norway when we visited Bergen, but C got sick. (I will admit I was also quite nervous about it!). I thought C and I were up for taking on the Monster that, at 1.57 miles (2.5 kilometers) long and reaching speeds up to 95 miles per hour, is not for the faint-hearted.

We stepped inside the store, paid for our go on the Monster, and then went around the side to get fitted into our gear. Unlike most ziplines where you sit upright, to ride the Monster you lie down so one wears a helmet and a long rubber-like apron, similar to what you might see a butcher wear. Fitted out, we shuffled over to the stairs that took us up a rise and then ascended the stories-high metal tower. With only five or six people in front of us, we did not have long to wait. C and I wanted to zip down side-by-side, but only one zipline was in operation. I decided to go first.

I had to step up to the platform and get into a plank position while the operator pulled the apron down full so it became more like a hammock cocooning my front and I was attached to the zipline in two locations. I had to put my arms behind me so my hands could grasp a handle around the back of my knees; the operator instructed me to keep holding on, with my arms tight to my side. Only at the end, I was told, should I release and put my arms out to the side. She swung me out part way from the platform and let go.

It was exhilarating! I must have been going really fast but as I looked down across the green valley, some 1200 feet below, it sort of felt that I was moving in slow motion. The foliage below was dense; I flew over a river. It was breathtaking. I could not stop smiling. But it was over in a minute. I waited for C to make her flight across the valley, then we had another shorter zipline to do before arriving at the truck that would take us back to the top. My verdict of the Monster? I would do it again!

The Fuente de los Leones (Fountain of the Lions) in Ponce’s Plaza las Delicias

After our zipline experience, we headed south through the mountains to Ponce; founded in 1692, it is Puerto Rico’s second-largest city. The road was windy, but the weather was fantastic and I enjoyed the freedom of being behind the wheel. It took about 75 minutes to arrive at the Plaza las Delicias, the main square. Except it turns out I headed to the Plaza las Delicias in Salinas, not Ponce, adding an extra 30-minute drive to our destination. Sigh. We had lunch in the Ponce suburbs and then parked near the Plaza for our sightseeing.

When I visited Puerto Rico in 2003, I wanted to visit Ponce but there were no rental cars available on the island, leaving me confined to San Juan. So, this time around, I aimed to rectify that. But a lot had happened since 2003. Most recently, Hurricane Maria in September 2017, two major earthquakes in January and May 2020, Hurricane Fiona in September 2022, and the COVID-19 pandemic led to physical and economic damage in Puerto Rico, but Ponce was hit particularly hard.

Around the Ponce Historic Zone

I parked a few blocks away from the Plaza las Delicias, at the heart of the city’s Historic Zone, and we began exploring. The plaza is beautiful. It is dominated by the Cathedral of Our Lady of Guadalupe to the west, the Parque de Bombas (the extraordinarily bold black and red striped building that was once a fire station and is now a museum) to the east, the Fuente de los Leones to the south, and a small park with statuary to the north. While not crowded, there were a good many people taking advantage of the good weather and festive spirit of the main plaza. Off from the plaza though, despite the stand-out buildings, largely in colorful Ponce Creole style (a mix of Spanish Creole and Neoclassical architecture), the air shifted perceptively. Buildings were weather-beaten, cracked, partially boarded up, and/or abandoned. While still lovely, they were hauntingly so, with an atmosphere of loss and neglect. My heart felt heavy and a little sad.

Left: the Parque de Bombas — built in 1882 for an Exhibition Trade Fair, it became the fire station; Right: Homes of firefighter descendants on Calle 25 de Enero (and yes, there is a horse in front of one of the homes)

After exploring more of the historic area on foot, I learned that a housing area with an interesting history was nearby, so we returned to the car and drove over. On January 25, 1899, a fire threatened the munitions depot and some local firefighters extinguished the flames. Hailed as heroes, the city gave them free housing, and, for some 50 years, another firefighter and his family were rewarded with a free home on Calle 25 de Enero (January 25th Street). Once we had visited the area, it was time to drive back to San Juan.

For our third and final day in Puerto Rico, C and I headed to El Yunque National Forest, the only tropical rainforest in the U.S. national forest system.

Flora on the El Yunque Visitor’s Center trail

I visited El Yunque during my 2003 trip to Puerto Rico. I took a group tour from San Juan. I remember that it was raining rather hard and that most of the group, including myself, bought cheap plastic parkas in a shop before beginning our guided hike. Also, during our walk we came across a waterfall where a couple had shed their clothes and were, um, making the most of their not-so-private time in the pool by the falls.

This time it was C and I and we had our own wheels, which gave us more freedom. We stopped first at the visitor’s center, where we picked up the guide pamphlet, learned a bit about the park, and took a short trail walk. Though the trail started just steps away from the parking lot, we spent the whole trail pleasantly alone.

We then drove into the park. I hoped to stop at La Coca Waterfall, located just near the road, but the area was congested, with cars parked on the roadside for some distance. So, on we went. Our first stop would be the Baño de Oro. The Civilian Conservation Corps built the bathing area in the 1930s in pits previously excavated by Spanish gold seekers; it is now a National Historic Property. We could only walk up a short set of stone stairs to the pool and on a path halfway around; trails that headed further into the forest were closed for renovations. Many trails in El Yunque remain closed for repair after the 2017 hurricane.

Yokahu Tower and the view from one of the Tower’s windows

We made it back to the car before the rains began. This on-again-off-again rain would stay with us for the rest of our visit, but I was fine with it for the breaks of bright sunshine we still had a chance to enjoy. I drove us to the top of the accessible road, and then we turned around. We stopped at the Rainforest Cafe for lunch, stopped for a panoramic view, and climbed the Yokahu Tower.

I took the scenic route back to San Juan and returned the rental car. C and I spent the rest of the afternoon relaxing and soaking in the last bit of the warmth of the tropics before returning to chilly Washington, D.C. It was a wonderful way to wrap up our visit to Puerto Rico and our winter vacation.

Southern Caribbean Cruise, Part 3: Barbados and Dominica

C at the port in Barbados

The fourth stop on our Southern Caribbean cruise was Barbados. I was interested in this stop and hoped it would not disappoint me like Saint Lucia. Though we had another small group tour, it was one with longer stops and less driving, and I had a little plan to maybe make it more interesting.

We headed first to the Animal Flower Cave. Located on the northernmost point of the island the cave is reportedly the only accessible sea cave on the island and is so named for the sea anemones found in its shallow pools. I was not sure if this stop was going to be all that, but several online sources told me it was worth it. And it sure was! Barbados is the most eastern of the Caribbean nations, and where the cold waters of the Atlantic Ocean meet the warmer waters of the Caribbean Sea. The Animal Flower Cave is below the windswept cliffs of this meeting point but with an opening to the sea’s elements.

C in the Animal Flower Cave

I paid the rather steep price of 40 Barbadian dollars (about US$20) each for us to descend, with a guide, down a narrow opening. At the bottom of the stone steps, we stood in a large cavern. The coral rock undulated – some smooth, some sharp – shaped by years of ocean waves and dotted with small pools of water. At the far end, the cave’s mouth gaped like a floor-to-ceiling window with extraordinary sea views. I found it a little hard to walk and, having recently experienced a surprising fall, I moved gingerly over the slippery and uneven rocks. C leapfrogged to the front of the cave and I caught a few photos of her there. It is possible to take a soak in a deeper pool on one side of the cave, but we had not brought our bathing suits and towels. Though frankly, the tour did not give us enough time even had we wanted to.

Topside, we took in the incredible views of the waves crashing against the sharp, jutting coastline. My goodness, it was stunning! We were so incredibly fortunate with the weather and a blue sky chock full of cottony cumulus clouds. I wished we had had more time to just stand there gazing out to sea.

The incredible view at Animal Flower Bay

We were off to our second stop: the heritage railway at St. Nicholas Abbey. I do enjoy a train ride and I love historic sites, including railways, but I really wanted to see the Abbey itself. I tried to book C and I an excursion just to the Abbey, but it included rum tasting and apparently I could not be trusted to keep my child from imbibing. That is how we ended up with the tour including Animal Flower Cave, which, thankfully, was a great addition to our day.

Last September, C and I journeyed to southern Virginia and visited Bacon’s Castle, the only structure built in high Jacobean architecture left in the United States. The only other two buildings in the same style left in the Western Hemisphere are found in Barbados, and St. Nicholas Abbey is one of them.

Our view from the front of the passenger cars on the Heritage Railway at St. Nicholas Abbey

Thus, I planned for us to ride the heritage railway and then ditch the group so we could tour the house and grounds. Then we would return to the port by taxi.

Our guide dropped our group at the heritage railway station. We all lined up and then stood about until the train pulled into the station. Then there was a big production to get us all on board. It was packed to the gills, so C and I stood at the front, just behind the engine. It was the best spot on the train, in my opinion, as we not only had views of the estate but also could observe the workings of the engine. The train whistled and chugged its way up to Cherry Hill Station; it was only a 10-minute ride.

C and I took in the view from atop Cherry Hill–rich green sloping down to an extensive stretch of coastline. And then we quickly walked back down the hill to the train station and the entrance to the house. It took less time to walk. We bought out tickets and soon enough we were doing a quick tour self-guided tour.

Built in 1658, St. Nicholas Abbey is one of Barbados’ oldest plantations. Like Bacon’s Castle, St. Nicholas Abbey, its owners, and those who worked there, have become part of the fabric of history. Today’s land area is the same as it was when two neighboring plantations, owned by Benjamin Berringer and John Yeamans were combined in 1661, under Yeaman. As a rich landowner, Yeaman was a member of the island’s legislative council. King Charles II rewarded his loyalty with an appointment as governor of Carolina, a single colony in the United States. Later Berringer’s daughter married in Carolina and her husband became governor of the colony.

St. Nicholas Abbey

Unlike Bacon’s Castle, the mansion at St. Nicholas Abbey is furnished, though, without a guided tour C and I viewed only the downstairs, which we zipped through with uncharacteristic speed. We also quickly made our way through the gardens, past the blacksmith and rum bottling buildings, up to the Boiling House and the distillery, and to the site of the former windmills, now just stone bases without the vanes. I would have preferred a leisurely stroll, much photo-taking, and lunch at the Terrace Cafe. But I was beginning to doubt we would get a taxi at a good price or one at all. I knew that our group had 30 minutes at the top of Cherry Hill, a 10-minute train ride back, and a few more minutes to grab drinks or use the facilities, so in less than 45 minutes we raced through St. Nicholas Abbey and were back in the tour bus for the return trip to the port, right on time.

I had hoped once back at the Port we could take a taxi to visit one more site in the capital, but the traffic around the port seemed chaotic and I did not want to risk it. So, we opted instead for a little shopping in the port and a walk back to the ship on a very long pier, then lunch on board. Barbados was not yet done with us, however. As we finished lunch, an announcement came over the ship’s public address system – a monkey had made its way on board and staff were working with local wildlife officials to safely capture it and return it to the island before we set sail. The afternoon was full of whispers about the monkey and those who saw it shared photos and video of their encounters.

Rainbow over Roseau, Dominica

Our fifth and final port stop was Dominica. It was this stop that largely led me to book this particular cruise, because getting to Dominica is not all that easy.

We had yet another small group shore excursion that was to give us a taste of the island. We were to visit two waterfalls, one part of the Morne Trois Pitons National Park, a UNESCO World Heritage Site, and then take a scenic drive that included the Botanical Gardens.

The first stop on the itinerary was at the Emerald Pool, where a 40-foot waterfall plunges into a pool surrounded by lush greenery, making the waters appear bright green in some light. Well, that is what it was supposed to look like. And it was pretty enough, really. the trail was in excellent shape. But, and maybe it was the light rain, or the crowds, or the tour guide who seemed annoyed by her job, I just was not feeling it. I have seen many waterfalls in my lifetime and I had been expecting more. We did not stay long.

C at the twin Trafalgar Falls at the Mourne Trois Pitons National Park, Dominica

However, the Trafalgar Falls were really a treat, though the viewing area was quite crowded. It was difficult to get a good view from the viewing platform, cheek to jowl with tourists. I am sure it’s great for the island economy, but less for the visitors themselves. But below the platform was a small trail that could get one a bit closer to the water. Though there was a line, once in front, you could take a photo that made it look like you were the only one there.

Back at the parking lot, our disgruntled tour guide shuttled us back on the bus and to a rather pointless stop, yet another Caribbean island bar offering another free rum or fruit punch. This one though we had to make a special stop, maneuvering into a tight parking lot, shuffling into the bar, lining up, and then passing the counter to swipe our “free” drink like we were on an assembly line. Then tossing it back and getting back on the bus for the “scenic” drive back to port.

Our final activity was a drive through the Botanical Garden. I love to visit such places and have been to many in my travels. I asked the tour guide if she could just drop us at the garden and she told us that NO ONE gets off the bus, even though it was all of a 16-minute walk from the cruise terminal. Fine. We had lunch on board the ship and then went for a stroll through Roseau.

Sites in Roseau, Dominica

We walked through town to the Botanical Garden. We had hoped to see parrots that reportedly make the gardens their home, but there were none to be found. The gardens were not extensive, but they made for a nice stroll. Roseau was a nice surprise as well. Of all the capitals we strolled through (Philipsburg, St. Maarten; St. Johns, Antigua; Castries, St. Lucia; we did not sightsee in Barbados’ capital), it was the most pleasant. C pointed out there were no duty-free or luxury goods shops set up at the port, which might have been a major factor in the change in atmosphere. There also seemed to be more historic and well-maintained buildings in general. Of the five island nations we visited, I think Dominica and Barbados are the ones I would make an effort to revisit and stay on for at least a few days.

The final day of our cruise was a day at sea. C and I took part in an indoor soft archery contest and a scavenger hunt and had massages at the spa. It was a nice, quiet, relaxing day with some mother-daughter fun sprinkled in. It was a good day.

Overall, we had a good cruise. The shore excursions were hit or miss, but they all got us out and about and provided an introduction to the island. Celebrity was overall good–it was a nice ship, we found the food options good, and C enjoyed the free jewelry promotions. Yet due to C’s current age and interests, Celebrity might not be the cruise line for us now. C, being just a month shy of her 13th birthday, felt too old for the 10-12 age group in the kids’ club. I completely understand the hard line of demarcation for kids and teens but had Celebrity allowed her to hang with the teens, I was not a fan of the division with 13-17-year-olds lumped together. (I have seen many other cruise lines divide it by 9-11, 12-14, and 15-17, which I like much better). At this age, a ship with more family-or-teen-friendly activities would work better for us. Perhaps someday, we can return to Celebrity? But maybe we might be cruise people after all?